Monday, August 4, 2008

Don’t Take Your Husband For Granted

You’ve got him now. Your husband, plus a sparkly new ring, his last name and the image of him tearfully pledging his undying love for you on a nicely packaged DVD that you can watch over and over with the simple click of a button. In addition, knowing that you two are bound together for the rest of your lives should be comforting. But don’t cross the line from being comfortable to being complacent.

Just because you signed a marriage license, it doesn’t give you license to take him for granted. When you live together day in and day out, it’s very easy to get used to some of the things your husband may do for you. To expect him to do things and become unappreciative as though he has to do them can be extremely detrimental to your marriage.

There’s no law saying that your husband has to call you if he is going to be home late from work. Should he? Yes, but does he have to? No. Your husband did not vow to put air in your ties when they are low or pledge to be the resident bug killer, but chances are he does these things anyway. They might seem small and easy to overlook, but they are some of the best perks about having a husband and living together.

Next time your husband takes your car and comes back with an oil change, stop and appreciate it. Whatever nice thing your husband may do, acknowledge it by thanking him and recognize how sweet it is.

Remember when you two were dating and he went that extra mile? It gave you that warm and fuzzy feeling when he sent flowers, planned surprise dinners or gave you that special gift. I’m not going to lie; very few husbands keep these things up on a regular basis. Flowers start to come less frequently – on Valentine’s Day, your birthday or if he’s really in the doghouse. Surprises might dwindle, too, and the special gifts… well, those come in different packages. Instead of the Tiffany charm bracelet, you get your computer software updated. Or your car washed and waxed after a rainy day. Or even better, you have a shoulder to cuddle up on after a heart-tugging episode of Law and Order. These may be your warm and fuzzy moments now. Appreciate whatever special little things your husband does to take care of you and know that it’s one of the many ways he may show his love for you.

And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,