It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week in light of the financial fallout our economy is facing I’ve got a money tip for everyone:
Don’t Avoid Difficult Financial Conversations. I realize that most people don’t want to read about these things so I’ll be quick and to the point. Just because you don’t talk about something doesn’t mean that it’s not happening. When it comes to money, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance can leave you, your new husband, and future children - gasp! - in financial ruins. Some topics for discussion include retirement plans, taxes, life insurance, disability insurance, will/living trust, previous child’s support and ex-wife’s alimony payments.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
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Showing posts with label Marriage Mondays. Show all posts
Monday, October 6, 2008
Monday, September 29, 2008
Do You Really Know Your Husband?
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three tips to make sure you really know your husband.
Do know what makes him happy. A big juicy stake, playing flag football in the park, making love to you. You should know what makes your husband happy and do your best to keep him that way.
Do learn each other’s favorites. Foods, colors, places, songs, people, and sodas… take the time to learn about the things your spouse loves.
Do appreciate his interests. You don’t have to like them, but respect them… as long as they are respectable.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Do know what makes him happy. A big juicy stake, playing flag football in the park, making love to you. You should know what makes your husband happy and do your best to keep him that way.
Do learn each other’s favorites. Foods, colors, places, songs, people, and sodas… take the time to learn about the things your spouse loves.
Do appreciate his interests. You don’t have to like them, but respect them… as long as they are respectable.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, September 15, 2008
Daily Dose of Do’s and Don’ts
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three tips for you to consider as you and your new hubby settle into your new roles as husband and wife.
Don’t expect your husband to nurture you like a woman does. It’s just not how most men are made. It that’s what you need, call your mother, your sister or your girlfriends.
Do know that husbands have selective hearing. They can hear the game on television that’s across the room while they’re sleeping, but you can talk five feet in front of their face and they many not hear a word you’re saying.
Don’t jump on him when he walks through the door from work. Women are ready to vent; men need at least fifteen minutes, and a trip to the bathroom.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Don’t expect your husband to nurture you like a woman does. It’s just not how most men are made. It that’s what you need, call your mother, your sister or your girlfriends.
Do know that husbands have selective hearing. They can hear the game on television that’s across the room while they’re sleeping, but you can talk five feet in front of their face and they many not hear a word you’re saying.
Don’t jump on him when he walks through the door from work. Women are ready to vent; men need at least fifteen minutes, and a trip to the bathroom.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, September 8, 2008
Money, Money, Money
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three money don’ts to help keep your marriage, and your check book, balanced.
Don’t mistake money for power. Confusing the two in a relationship can lead to its end.
Don’t count pennies. “I made this much; you made that much.” That is very dangerous territory. Never use how much you earn against each other.
Don’t expect everything to be equal. You are in a partnership now. Sometimes you do more; sometimes your partner will do more. That’s the beauty of having a partner.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Don’t mistake money for power. Confusing the two in a relationship can lead to its end.
Don’t count pennies. “I made this much; you made that much.” That is very dangerous territory. Never use how much you earn against each other.
Don’t expect everything to be equal. You are in a partnership now. Sometimes you do more; sometimes your partner will do more. That’s the beauty of having a partner.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, September 1, 2008
Wifey's Marriage Monday
This Monday Wifey is taking a little to have a Marriage Monday of her own. Husband has the day off so I am spending the day with my family. I will resume my usual Marriage Monday posts next week. Don’t forget to check back in this week for Hump Day and other helpful hints.
Enjoy the holiday and remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Enjoy the holiday and remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, August 25, 2008
Surviving a Sports Fanatic, Rule #202
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and today’s tip is in honor of the beginning of football season. If you are not a sports lover but married to one, today’s tip is for you…
Take advantage of the time that he is enjoying sports to do something special for you.
Do not focus on his behavior and spend excessive negative energy nagging, yes I said it, nagging him about sports. He’s having a good time enjoying something that he likes. Either enjoy it with him or find something that you enjoy to do, too.
Yes, you are a couple now, but you still need to nurture your individuality. It’s OK and encouraged to have some separate interests of your own. Be one with yourself. Discover a passion that is hidden in the depths of your soul. And if that’s too deep for you, grab your purse and a girlfriend and go shopping. See a movie, get a massage, go to a play, read a book, catch up on some sleep. Do something (except bitch at him) that will make you happy, too.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Take advantage of the time that he is enjoying sports to do something special for you.
Do not focus on his behavior and spend excessive negative energy nagging, yes I said it, nagging him about sports. He’s having a good time enjoying something that he likes. Either enjoy it with him or find something that you enjoy to do, too.
Yes, you are a couple now, but you still need to nurture your individuality. It’s OK and encouraged to have some separate interests of your own. Be one with yourself. Discover a passion that is hidden in the depths of your soul. And if that’s too deep for you, grab your purse and a girlfriend and go shopping. See a movie, get a massage, go to a play, read a book, catch up on some sleep. Do something (except bitch at him) that will make you happy, too.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, August 18, 2008
Live, Love and Laugh
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and today’s tip is a simple one…
Laugh together.
It’s so easy to get caught up in life’s distractions, to stress about work, money, family and starting your new life together. At some point you have to stop, take a deep breath and just enjoy each other. Having fun and laughing together is one of the best things you can do for your marriage, still it’s so often over looked.
Today take the time to do something you enjoy with your husband and have a good laugh.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Laugh together.
It’s so easy to get caught up in life’s distractions, to stress about work, money, family and starting your new life together. At some point you have to stop, take a deep breath and just enjoy each other. Having fun and laughing together is one of the best things you can do for your marriage, still it’s so often over looked.
Today take the time to do something you enjoy with your husband and have a good laugh.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, August 11, 2008
Don’t Harp on Silly Stuff
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life, when I write about the magic, the mayhem and how to create or avoid them. This morning I’m sharing some advice out of my book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now?, that is guaranteed, gasp! - yes, I said guaranteed - to help you avoid the mayhem if you follow it.
Don’t harp on silly stuff.
Yes it really is that simple. Who cares if the toilet seat is up or down, or if the cap is on the toothpaste? Get a grip, or your own toothpaste, and let the gripe go!
It’s so cliché to even address some of these stereotypical gripes, so I’ll be really brief. Life is too short to give the toilet seat so much of your precious time. Once you get into your marriage, you’ll realize that there are bigger fish to fry, hills to climb, battles to pick (since I’m being cliché, why not go there?), and that it really doesn’t make much difference if he lowers the toilet seat or not. The following is probably the simplest piece of advice that I can give: if you go to use the bathroom and he left the toilet seat up…put it down.
It used to drive me crazy when Husband would come home from work, step out of his pants, and leave them on the floor of our walk-in closet. I just knew it was the end of the free world. I tried to figure out how I was going to tell him to pick his pants up without sounding like a nag. Then I stopped thinking about me, me, me and I put myself in his shoes, or in this case his pants. OK, but seriously, I thought about how he might feel. Maybe it would drive him crazy that he can’t step out of his pants and leave them on the floor. After all, it is his closet, too. His house, too. If he can’t leave his pants on the floor of his closet in his house, where else could he possibly have the freedom to leave them?
After thinking about it like that, his pants on the floor suddenly didn’t seem so serious. Most of the time, I don’t even notice his pants anymore. If I see them on the floor and feel the need, I pick them up and drop them in the hamper. If not, after a day or two – amazingly, he picks them up himself.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Don’t harp on silly stuff.
Yes it really is that simple. Who cares if the toilet seat is up or down, or if the cap is on the toothpaste? Get a grip, or your own toothpaste, and let the gripe go!
It’s so cliché to even address some of these stereotypical gripes, so I’ll be really brief. Life is too short to give the toilet seat so much of your precious time. Once you get into your marriage, you’ll realize that there are bigger fish to fry, hills to climb, battles to pick (since I’m being cliché, why not go there?), and that it really doesn’t make much difference if he lowers the toilet seat or not. The following is probably the simplest piece of advice that I can give: if you go to use the bathroom and he left the toilet seat up…put it down.
It used to drive me crazy when Husband would come home from work, step out of his pants, and leave them on the floor of our walk-in closet. I just knew it was the end of the free world. I tried to figure out how I was going to tell him to pick his pants up without sounding like a nag. Then I stopped thinking about me, me, me and I put myself in his shoes, or in this case his pants. OK, but seriously, I thought about how he might feel. Maybe it would drive him crazy that he can’t step out of his pants and leave them on the floor. After all, it is his closet, too. His house, too. If he can’t leave his pants on the floor of his closet in his house, where else could he possibly have the freedom to leave them?
After thinking about it like that, his pants on the floor suddenly didn’t seem so serious. Most of the time, I don’t even notice his pants anymore. If I see them on the floor and feel the need, I pick them up and drop them in the hamper. If not, after a day or two – amazingly, he picks them up himself.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, August 4, 2008
Don’t Take Your Husband For Granted
You’ve got him now. Your husband, plus a sparkly new ring, his last name and the image of him tearfully pledging his undying love for you on a nicely packaged DVD that you can watch over and over with the simple click of a button. In addition, knowing that you two are bound together for the rest of your lives should be comforting. But don’t cross the line from being comfortable to being complacent.
Just because you signed a marriage license, it doesn’t give you license to take him for granted. When you live together day in and day out, it’s very easy to get used to some of the things your husband may do for you. To expect him to do things and become unappreciative as though he has to do them can be extremely detrimental to your marriage.
There’s no law saying that your husband has to call you if he is going to be home late from work. Should he? Yes, but does he have to? No. Your husband did not vow to put air in your ties when they are low or pledge to be the resident bug killer, but chances are he does these things anyway. They might seem small and easy to overlook, but they are some of the best perks about having a husband and living together.
Next time your husband takes your car and comes back with an oil change, stop and appreciate it. Whatever nice thing your husband may do, acknowledge it by thanking him and recognize how sweet it is.
Remember when you two were dating and he went that extra mile? It gave you that warm and fuzzy feeling when he sent flowers, planned surprise dinners or gave you that special gift. I’m not going to lie; very few husbands keep these things up on a regular basis. Flowers start to come less frequently – on Valentine’s Day, your birthday or if he’s really in the doghouse. Surprises might dwindle, too, and the special gifts… well, those come in different packages. Instead of the Tiffany charm bracelet, you get your computer software updated. Or your car washed and waxed after a rainy day. Or even better, you have a shoulder to cuddle up on after a heart-tugging episode of Law and Order. These may be your warm and fuzzy moments now. Appreciate whatever special little things your husband does to take care of you and know that it’s one of the many ways he may show his love for you.
And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Just because you signed a marriage license, it doesn’t give you license to take him for granted. When you live together day in and day out, it’s very easy to get used to some of the things your husband may do for you. To expect him to do things and become unappreciative as though he has to do them can be extremely detrimental to your marriage.
There’s no law saying that your husband has to call you if he is going to be home late from work. Should he? Yes, but does he have to? No. Your husband did not vow to put air in your ties when they are low or pledge to be the resident bug killer, but chances are he does these things anyway. They might seem small and easy to overlook, but they are some of the best perks about having a husband and living together.
Next time your husband takes your car and comes back with an oil change, stop and appreciate it. Whatever nice thing your husband may do, acknowledge it by thanking him and recognize how sweet it is.
Remember when you two were dating and he went that extra mile? It gave you that warm and fuzzy feeling when he sent flowers, planned surprise dinners or gave you that special gift. I’m not going to lie; very few husbands keep these things up on a regular basis. Flowers start to come less frequently – on Valentine’s Day, your birthday or if he’s really in the doghouse. Surprises might dwindle, too, and the special gifts… well, those come in different packages. Instead of the Tiffany charm bracelet, you get your computer software updated. Or your car washed and waxed after a rainy day. Or even better, you have a shoulder to cuddle up on after a heart-tugging episode of Law and Order. These may be your warm and fuzzy moments now. Appreciate whatever special little things your husband does to take care of you and know that it’s one of the many ways he may show his love for you.
And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, July 21, 2008
The Man Rules Part 1
Husband sent me “The Man Rules” awhile ago and I just have to share. I don’t know where they originated from but they are funny as hell. Some will make you laugh, some might piss you off and some might seem painfully true. The more you learn and take heed to your husband’s own “Man Rules” the more you will avoid mayhem in your marriage.
There are several of them so I’m breaking them up into two parts. Enjoy Part 1:
The Man Rules
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down. Finally, the guys' side of the story. We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note... these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
To be continued ...
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
There are several of them so I’m breaking them up into two parts. Enjoy Part 1:
The Man Rules
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down. Finally, the guys' side of the story. We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note... these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
To be continued ...
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, July 14, 2008
What’s the Best Thing that Happened to You During Your First Year of Marriage?
That’s a question I asked and included in the “Wives’ Words” section of my book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Answers varied from “We became better friends,” to “We got to make love whenever we wanted to and a whole lot,” to “I realized my husband loved me and was trying as hard as I was to learn how to be a good mate.”
There’s no right or wrong answer – as long as you have one. Just like planning your wedding, planning the rest of your life can be stressful and consuming. Your newlywed year is flying by and you don’t want to miss the wonderful “first times” that come with your first year. Do you remember the first time your husband introduced you as his wife? Or, the first time someone called you “Mrs. So & So?” I was in the doctor’s office and didn’t quite realize the “Mrs. Robertson” they were calling was me.
There are many magical moments that happen during your first year of marriage. Make sure to memories of them. So often it’s the drama that stands out in our minds, when it should be those special irreplaceable times.
So, how about you? What’s the best thing that’s happened to you during your first year of marriage? New wives everywhere want to know…
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
There’s no right or wrong answer – as long as you have one. Just like planning your wedding, planning the rest of your life can be stressful and consuming. Your newlywed year is flying by and you don’t want to miss the wonderful “first times” that come with your first year. Do you remember the first time your husband introduced you as his wife? Or, the first time someone called you “Mrs. So & So?” I was in the doctor’s office and didn’t quite realize the “Mrs. Robertson” they were calling was me.
There are many magical moments that happen during your first year of marriage. Make sure to memories of them. So often it’s the drama that stands out in our minds, when it should be those special irreplaceable times.
So, how about you? What’s the best thing that’s happened to you during your first year of marriage? New wives everywhere want to know…
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, July 7, 2008
Newlywed Syndrome #5 - Wedding Withdrawal
It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life, and this week we’re tackling wedding withdrawal, a syndrome that catches most brides by surprise and with their guard – and their dresses – down.
I’m no exception. I didn’t expect to have wedding withdrawal either. I was thrilled that my wedding day seemed flawless. It turned out one hundred times better than I imagined. Then I spent a week relaxing at a luxurious five-star hotel on the beach in Mexico with my new husband rubbing suntan oil all over my bronzed body. Yup, married life was looking and feeling pretty good at that point, until I got home and … wham!... wedding withdrawal came crashing out of nowhere like a big blue tidal wave and wiped out my picture-perfect fantasy.
What is wedding withdrawal? It’s when you miss the excitement, anticipation, craziness and stress of planning your wedding. You’ve lived and breathed your wedding for probably most of your life – or at least the past six months. It’s only natural to miss this. Wedding withdrawal can happen to the compulsive organizer or the carefree planner. Whether you had a five-course meal with 300 guests or an intimate dinner with immediate family and friends, planning your wedding can be as taxing as having a second full-time job.
Your wedding consumes so much of your mind and your time then all of the sudden in one day you’re done. It’s over. Your wedding day has come and gone. No more appointments wit the caterer. No more flowers to choose or pretty silk ribbons to tie around tiny bottles of bubbles. No more fantasizing about what your wedding day will be like, and the hardest part of wedding withdrawal: nothing for you to do.
But, that’s not entirely true, you do have things to do – lots of things to do – it just feels like you don’t. And truthfully, the post-wedding wrap up is not nearly as exciting as planning the wedding. There’s a void that comes after you’ve spent several months of your life living and breathing your wedding. You would think that any sane person would welcome wedding withdrawal and a much-needed break, but no, that would be too easy and not a likely thing for a new bride to do.
OK, so the fact is that most of us go through some sort of wedding planning withdrawal – whether it’s missing the excitement of attending your first bridal expo, or the joy of thumbing through stacks of bridal magazines, or some other aspect of planning the biggest event of your life. And, let’s be honest, many of us miss truly being the center of attention. It’s the one day in your life when everything is all about you! Missing that is normal as long as you keep it in perspective.
Pay attention to your feelings, talk about them with your husband, and then let them go. You have something new and exciting to focus on now – your marriage! Sometimes it’s easy to forget this, but that’s really what the wedding is all about, not the music, nor the flowers, nor the delicious little crab-cake hors d’oeuvres. You are entering a very impressionable time in your marriage – the beginning – and you don’t want to start it off on the wrong foot, especially a selfish one!
And, don’t expect your husband to completely understand what you’re going through. Wedding withdrawal is not a man thing. In fact, he’s probably happy to have the love of his life back, and to lose the chart-seating maniac he just married.
If you’re having trouble letting go, curl up with your husband and relive the day by watching your wedding video. Now is also the perfect time to knock out those “thank you” notes, get your dressed cleaned, and do some paperwork! Besides, handling the after-wedding wrap-up tasks can help ease the pain of the wedding withdrawal blues. They will pass before you know it. Think of it as a transition period to ease you gradually out of your intense and sometimes neurotic planning mode into the exciting and eventful world of marriage.
And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
I’m no exception. I didn’t expect to have wedding withdrawal either. I was thrilled that my wedding day seemed flawless. It turned out one hundred times better than I imagined. Then I spent a week relaxing at a luxurious five-star hotel on the beach in Mexico with my new husband rubbing suntan oil all over my bronzed body. Yup, married life was looking and feeling pretty good at that point, until I got home and … wham!... wedding withdrawal came crashing out of nowhere like a big blue tidal wave and wiped out my picture-perfect fantasy.
What is wedding withdrawal? It’s when you miss the excitement, anticipation, craziness and stress of planning your wedding. You’ve lived and breathed your wedding for probably most of your life – or at least the past six months. It’s only natural to miss this. Wedding withdrawal can happen to the compulsive organizer or the carefree planner. Whether you had a five-course meal with 300 guests or an intimate dinner with immediate family and friends, planning your wedding can be as taxing as having a second full-time job.
Your wedding consumes so much of your mind and your time then all of the sudden in one day you’re done. It’s over. Your wedding day has come and gone. No more appointments wit the caterer. No more flowers to choose or pretty silk ribbons to tie around tiny bottles of bubbles. No more fantasizing about what your wedding day will be like, and the hardest part of wedding withdrawal: nothing for you to do.
But, that’s not entirely true, you do have things to do – lots of things to do – it just feels like you don’t. And truthfully, the post-wedding wrap up is not nearly as exciting as planning the wedding. There’s a void that comes after you’ve spent several months of your life living and breathing your wedding. You would think that any sane person would welcome wedding withdrawal and a much-needed break, but no, that would be too easy and not a likely thing for a new bride to do.
OK, so the fact is that most of us go through some sort of wedding planning withdrawal – whether it’s missing the excitement of attending your first bridal expo, or the joy of thumbing through stacks of bridal magazines, or some other aspect of planning the biggest event of your life. And, let’s be honest, many of us miss truly being the center of attention. It’s the one day in your life when everything is all about you! Missing that is normal as long as you keep it in perspective.
Pay attention to your feelings, talk about them with your husband, and then let them go. You have something new and exciting to focus on now – your marriage! Sometimes it’s easy to forget this, but that’s really what the wedding is all about, not the music, nor the flowers, nor the delicious little crab-cake hors d’oeuvres. You are entering a very impressionable time in your marriage – the beginning – and you don’t want to start it off on the wrong foot, especially a selfish one!
And, don’t expect your husband to completely understand what you’re going through. Wedding withdrawal is not a man thing. In fact, he’s probably happy to have the love of his life back, and to lose the chart-seating maniac he just married.
If you’re having trouble letting go, curl up with your husband and relive the day by watching your wedding video. Now is also the perfect time to knock out those “thank you” notes, get your dressed cleaned, and do some paperwork! Besides, handling the after-wedding wrap-up tasks can help ease the pain of the wedding withdrawal blues. They will pass before you know it. Think of it as a transition period to ease you gradually out of your intense and sometimes neurotic planning mode into the exciting and eventful world of marriage.
And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Monday, June 30, 2008
Marriage Mondays
Matrimony Magic or Matrimony Mayhem? The first year – and those after, too – are often filled with magic or mayhem. Yes, there is Matrimony Mediocrity, too, but it’s normally the magical moments or the mayhem that we tend to remember the most.
So, with that said Mondays will be dedicated to those magical moments (like the first time he introduced you as his wife or the first time you sat in the middle of your new house that you share with your new husband and you thought to yourself gleefully, “I’m married now, isn’t this great?”); or... those not so magical moments (like when you can’t agree peacefully whose favorite couch you’re going to keep or you sat in the middle of your new house that you share with your new husband and you thought to yourself fearfully, “I’m married now, how did I get here?”).
I guarantee you will probably think both of those things several times through out the course of your first year… and beyond. But, not to worry, it doesn’t mean that you’re uncertain, or that you made a mistake. Being nervous about being a new wife is perfectly normally and more common than most new brides care to admit.
Marriage Mondays will highlight some of those ups and downs and offer some do’s and don’ts to help you get through them without having a panic attack. If you have a magical or mayhem moment that you’d like to share, please leave a comment or shoot me an e-mail at questions@askwifey.com.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
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