Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Where’s Wifey?

The Newlywed Life is being restructured and will be out of commission for awhile. In the meantime, please visit me at Ask Wifey or Wifey’s House.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Bon Voyage

The Newlywed Life will be on a brief hiatus as I embark on Wifey’s Big Adventure. I apologize that there is no Hump Day post today, but I will try to make up for it with something extra special when I get back.

In the meantime, I invite you to come by Wifey’s House where I will do my best to write updates and post pictures while I enjoy my special trip.

Ciao!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, October 10, 2008

A Little Hip Help

It’s Fab Friday at The Newlywed Life, the day I divulge some of my fabulous finds. Websites, housewares, décor, drinks, jewelry, books; it doesn’t matter as long as it’s fabulous.

I was watching The Today Show earlier this week and discovered this…



isABelt. A clear, uniquely designed, adjustable belt to keep pants from slipping down, $16.95.

I have yet to get one but think this is a wonderful idea. It eliminates that awful belt budget that can often ruin the perfect outfit. If anyone has ever tried it, please let us know.

Here’s to a little something fabulous for everyone!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Sexy Sabotage

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I’ve got a question for you: Are you sabotaging your own sexiness?

I went swimsuit shopping yesterday with my mother as I am preparing to go on a special trip (more details about my excursion in an upcoming post) and for the first time in a long time – thanks to my Fifteen in Five plan – I actually enjoyed it. I bought two fabulous swimsuits and can’t wait to wear them – in public. That inspired me to go home and dive into my closet to search for outfits for the rest of my trip. As I reached past my usual work-from-home, take-the-kids-to-practice, workout gear I found a closet full of stylish, sexy clothes and shoes waiting for me to rediscover them.

Gasp! Have I been sabotaging my own sexiness? While I’m not guilty of rocking the infamous “mom jeans,” I found out that I haven’t always been putting my sexiest side forward. What’s ironic is I know better – I talk about staying a hot chick after getting married in my book – but I think sometimes we all could use a little reminder.

So, here it is… your sexiness reminder. I know we’re all busy, but sexiness really doesn’t have to take a lot of time. I know we all come in different shapes and sizes, but fortunately sexiness does, too. Maybe it’s some hot jeans, sleek boots, pretty panties, a touch of make up, or simply a positive mindset that makes you feel sexy. Whatever it is that sparks your sexiness make sure to flaunt – not sabotage – it!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Great News and Reviews

First the great news… I am so pleased to share that my sister will soon be joining The Newlywed Life. Her boyfriend, ahem, fiancé, popped the question – and a fabulous diamond ring – yesterday and officially asked her to marry him. I couldn’t be happier and am excited for them both.



The bling-bling. He’s off to a great start!

Now the review, I am also pleased to share a great review of my new book on a fun website I discovered a few months ago, Polka Dot Bride. Ms. Polka was gracious enough to send me a link to her review of the book so I thank her kindly and invite you to stop by and pay her a visit.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, October 6, 2008

Dodging Difficult Conversations

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week in light of the financial fallout our economy is facing I’ve got a money tip for everyone:

Don’t Avoid Difficult Financial Conversations. I realize that most people don’t want to read about these things so I’ll be quick and to the point. Just because you don’t talk about something doesn’t mean that it’s not happening. When it comes to money, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance can leave you, your new husband, and future children - gasp! - in financial ruins. Some topics for discussion include retirement plans, taxes, life insurance, disability insurance, will/living trust, previous child’s support and ex-wife’s alimony payments.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, October 3, 2008

Pretty in Pink

It’s Fab Friday at The Newlywed Life, the day I divulge some of my fabulous finds. Websites, housewares, décor, drinks, jewelry, books; it doesn’t matter as long as it’s fabulous.

When I picked up the mail yesterday there was an envelope from Tiffany & Co. with my name on it inviting me to look at their new and noteworthy fall designs. Of course I obliged – who can resist the allure of the turquoise box – then I took it one step further and began browsing their website. That’s when I found this…



Tiffany Legacy Collection, Pink sapphire ring, $13,500

Gasp! It gives a new definition to pretty in pink. Yes, it’s a bit on the pricey side but there are many other fabulous pieces on Tiffany.com that won’t break the budget.

Here’s to a little something fabulous for everyone!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Faking The Big O

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. Last week in my Ask Wifey column I tackled a question about faking orgasms. Gasp! Dare I say it, most women have yelled to the hills when they were less than thrilled at sometime or another.

That leads me to ask, do you fake “The Big O?” Don’t worry, it’s a rhetorical question. You don’t have to answer out loud, although your comments are definitely welcome. My question is more to get you thinking. Are you satisfied with the outcome – no pun intended – when you have sex? Or, are you doing your best “When Harry Met Sally” impersonation?

Statistics show it takes more than intercourse for most women to reach orgasm, and that it doesn’t happen during every sexual encounter. My advice to the woman last week was instead of faking it; find new ways that will truly take you there and then share them with your husband.

I suppose a little enhanced holler every now and then doesn’t hurt anything; but wouldn’t it be more fun for everyone involved if you really mean it? What do you think? Theatrical minds want to know…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, September 29, 2008

Do You Really Know Your Husband?

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three tips to make sure you really know your husband.

Do know what makes him happy. A big juicy stake, playing flag football in the park, making love to you. You should know what makes your husband happy and do your best to keep him that way.

Do learn each other’s favorites. Foods, colors, places, songs, people, and sodas… take the time to learn about the things your spouse loves.

Do appreciate his interests.
You don’t have to like them, but respect them… as long as they are respectable.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, September 26, 2008

Shop It To Me

It’s Fab Friday at The Newlywed Life, the day I divulge some of my fabulous finds. Websites, housewares, décor, drinks, jewelry, books; it doesn’t matter as long as it’s fabulous.

One of my girlfriends hipped me to this fabulous shopping site, ShopItToMe.com. When you sign up you tell them what brands you like, what types of items you’re looking for and what sizes you need. Sign up is quick and simple; and then they email you, as frequently as you request, with great buys of your favorite things.



It's like having your own personal shopper ... via email. Here’s to a little fabulous shopping for everyone!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Six Sexy Do's and Don'ts

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. In honor of the official release of my new book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage, here’s six do’s and don’ts from the book to help keep your sex life… sexy:

Do take the time to create the sex life you want. You have your whole life to build your sex life. That’s why it’s called a sex life.

Don’t do anything that you’re not comfortable with. Married or not – period.

Do what makes you feel sexy. Wear pretty panties, shave your legs, and shower yourself with fragrant body wash. Take the time to do the things that make you feel sexy.

Do have a nooner. Meet at home for lunch… and skip the lunch!

Do keep your sex life interesting. There’s nothing worse than boring sex…except more boring sex.

Do experiment with sex toys and games. There’s a wide assortment of fun and safe toys and games available to enhance your sex life. Spice it up and have some fun.



To purchase a copy of Help! I’m a Newlywed for yourself or as a gift for a new bride visit AskWifey.com or Amazon.com.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, September 19, 2008

Fit Food

It’s Fab Friday at The Newlywed Life, the day I divulge some of my fabulous finds. Websites, housewares, décor, drinks, jewelry, books; it doesn’t matter as long as it’s fabulous.

In light of this week’s Hump Day post I figured this fancy food gadget would be appropriate.



OXO Food Scale with Pullout Display, $49.95 at Crate and Barrel.

What better way to help stay in shape than weighing what your eating in style.

Here’s to a little something Fab for everybody’s waistline.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Three Tips To Better Sex

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. It’s no secret that I’m a fitness fan and am quick to share the benefits of getting buff – remember this – so it shouldn’t come as a surprise after my Fifteen in Five plan that I’m tying sex and exercise back together again.

For three ways exercise can improve your sex life come on over to Wifey’s House…

Monday, September 15, 2008

Daily Dose of Do’s and Don’ts

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three tips for you to consider as you and your new hubby settle into your new roles as husband and wife.

Don’t expect your husband to nurture you like a woman does. It’s just not how most men are made. It that’s what you need, call your mother, your sister or your girlfriends.

Do know that husbands have selective hearing. They can hear the game on television that’s across the room while they’re sleeping, but you can talk five feet in front of their face and they many not hear a word you’re saying.

Don’t jump on him when he walks through the door from work. Women are ready to vent; men need at least fifteen minutes, and a trip to the bathroom.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, September 12, 2008

Mary Jane

It’s Fab Friday at The Newlywed Life, the day I divulge some of my fabulous finds. Websites, housewares, décor, drinks, jewelry, books; it doesn’t matter as long as it’s fabulous.

In honor of Fall Fashion Week, I decided to look for some cute fall shoes. While perusing Nordstrom’s designer collection, I instantly fell in love with these…


Burberry Patent Leather High Heel Mary Jane, $450

Yes, they screamed FABULOUS at me and I felt compelled to share.

I also saw the price and felt compelled to find a less expensive version of this oh so lovely shoe.


Women’s Isaac Mizrahi for Target Jasmine Mary Jane Pumps – Red Patent, $32.99.

Here’s to a little something Fab for everybody’s budget.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Sex … All Night Long or One Hour Strong?

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. Husband was flipping through this…



(No, this post is not about the cover, even though it’s oozing sex.)

… and handed me the magazine to look at the article, “The 33 Most Overrated.” While he was laughing at something at the top of the list, it was the bottom that grabbed me.

Number 33 on Blender magazine’s most overrated people, places, trends and other junk in rock list is Sexin’ All Night Long. The article reads:

“Usher, Keith Sweat, AC/DC, Prince…we could go on and on about the mack daddies who brag about going on and on – hittin’ it, workin’ it and doing other stuff to it – until the break of dawn. Even Dokken have a song about all-night boning. Two words for all these guys: Shyeah, right! Have you actually ever tried sexin’ it for more than, like, two hours? You get bored. You get sores. You get tired. Call us square, but unless you’re Sting or a crystal-meth addict, an all-night sex marathon sounds about as fun as an all-day Friends marathon. Underrated alternative: Sexin’ for 45 minutes and getting 10 hours sleep.”

Is it me or is this funny as hell? When was the last time you had sex for more than two hours… in a row? Gasp! My newlywed wives might have a little different answer than my veterans, especially if the sexin’ hasn’t spawned any children yet. Kudos to those with the stamina to sustain, but the underrated alternative might not be so, ahem, underrated.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, September 8, 2008

Money, Money, Money

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and this week I’ve got three money don’ts to help keep your marriage, and your check book, balanced.

Don’t mistake money for power. Confusing the two in a relationship can lead to its end.

Don’t count pennies. “I made this much; you made that much.” That is very dangerous territory. Never use how much you earn against each other.

Don’t expect everything to be equal. You are in a partnership now. Sometimes you do more; sometimes your partner will do more. That’s the beauty of having a partner.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong in not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, September 5, 2008

If You Can't Beat 'Em, Join 'Em

This week’s Wives’ Words appropriately marks the beginning of football season…

“All I can say is have patience and if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. Sit and watch the games with him at least every now and then. If that doesn’t work, put a teddy on if need be and give him a halftime show he’ll never forget.” – Allison, married 12 years.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Sex Signs

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I have a question for you: do you know what kind of sex signals you send to your spouse? And, when you send them?

You are sending sex signals, whether you mean to or not. And, believe me, your husband is reading them, correctly or not. When you’re tired, overworked, and completely distracted your husband can read that in your body language. If you come home after a hard day's work then go change into your favorite pair of sweatpants and an oversized T-Shirt, he knows his chances of getting them off of you are slim. That’s not to say that he won’t try, but more than likely a red flag went up when those sweatpants went on – especially if you normally slip into something sexy when you’re trying to seduce him.

Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, September 1, 2008

Wifey's Marriage Monday

This Monday Wifey is taking a little to have a Marriage Monday of her own. Husband has the day off so I am spending the day with my family. I will resume my usual Marriage Monday posts next week. Don’t forget to check back in this week for Hump Day and other helpful hints.

Enjoy the holiday and remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, August 29, 2008

Wives’ Words, Living Together, Part 2

Real wives share their thoughts on living together…

“This can be a challenge, making yours and mine into ours. My advice would simply be to be open to change and if necessary learn to love that ugly favorite chair, painting, 49rs pillow (whatever ‘it’ may be). Set some ground rules as to what is expected as far as grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. A lot of assumptions are made about who is doing what.” —Allison, married 12 years

“Being compatible helps and respectful the way any roommate should act.” —Sharon, married eight years

“Try to really be honest about who you are, and your beliefs before you move in together. It is a lot easier to deal with major differences if you don't feel like someone has done a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde on you, just to get you in.” —Hope, married 14 years

“Be patient.” —Ndidi, married six years

“Your home should be a place of solitude and relaxation when you both come home from a long day's work.” —Monica, married three years

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Calling All Music Lovers...

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week Oprah’s got me again. For some reason her television show and magazine continue to feed me great material for Hump Day (thanks, Oprah … we should do lunch!).

I was flipping through the pages of the September issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, the shopping section to be specific - and had to stop and do a double take when I saw a picture that looked like this...



Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, August 25, 2008

Surviving a Sports Fanatic, Rule #202

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and today’s tip is in honor of the beginning of football season. If you are not a sports lover but married to one, today’s tip is for you…

Take advantage of the time that he is enjoying sports to do something special for you.

Do not focus on his behavior and spend excessive negative energy nagging, yes I said it, nagging him about sports. He’s having a good time enjoying something that he likes. Either enjoy it with him or find something that you enjoy to do, too.

Yes, you are a couple now, but you still need to nurture your individuality. It’s OK and encouraged to have some separate interests of your own. Be one with yourself. Discover a passion that is hidden in the depths of your soul. And if that’s too deep for you, grab your purse and a girlfriend and go shopping. See a movie, get a massage, go to a play, read a book, catch up on some sleep. Do something (except bitch at him) that will make you happy, too.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, August 22, 2008

Wives’ Words: Living Together, Part 1

Real wives share their thoughts on living together…

“Whatever habits existed before the marriage will be there afterwards. Don’t expect too much change. If he was a slob the night before the ceremony he will be that same slob the next morning.” —Cheryl, married five years

“Don't project yourself onto your spouse and get mad if he doesn't do it your way (cleaning up, cooking paying bills). Work it out and figure out who likes (doesn't mind) doing what.” —Robin, married six years

“You will be exposed to habits that will annoy the hell out of you. You can nag about everything, but that will be a total drag – for you and for him! If your husband, no matter how many times you ask him, never seems to be able to put a new toilet paper roll in the bathroom, then it may be better for your sanity to just know that you’ll be the toilet paper replacer in the family.” —Nancy, married two years

“Be very careful living together is different than being married. We lived together a year before getting married and it was amazing we still did not skip the one year situations that have to be worked out. Marriage is a totally different creature.” —Rachel, married 12 years

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

A Kiss is Worth 336 Hours

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. Last week I shared a few interesting facts about sex. One of them was the average person spends two weeks of their life kissing. It might sound like a lot but when you break it down it’s really not. Two weeks is 336 hours. There are 8,736 hours in one year. Let’s say you live 80 years, we’ll only count 60 since none of us were kissing anyone before we were twenty, right? Ahem, ahem. That’s 524,160 hours. A mere 336 hours doesn’t seem like much when you added it all up.

The point of that exercise was not to show off my math skills, or lack of if my numbers are wrong, it’s to bring to your attention how often you kiss your spouse.

Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, August 18, 2008

Live, Love and Laugh

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life and today’s tip is a simple one…

Laugh together.

It’s so easy to get caught up in life’s distractions, to stress about work, money, family and starting your new life together. At some point you have to stop, take a deep breath and just enjoy each other. Having fun and laughing together is one of the best things you can do for your marriage, still it’s so often over looked.

Today take the time to do something you enjoy with your husband and have a good laugh.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, August 15, 2008

Wives' Words

When I'm starting something new, when I don’t know what to do or if I’m just scared to death, I always find it comforting to hear other people’s experiences. Knowing that I’m not alone, and that other people have gone through what I’m experiencing, and survived, often gives me that edge to move forward and to excel. That’s exactly why I talked to many veteran wives and included their words of wisdom in my book, "Help! I'm a Newlywed...What Do I Do Now?" I love hearing other people’s perspectives and often finding great advice in the process.

I’ve decided to share some of that here at The Newlywed Life. The “Wives’ Words” below are pulled from my book, however, moving forward I will continue to interview more wives who can share some of their experiences with you. If you have any questions that you would like answered please do let me know.

What did you expect the first year of marriage to be like?

“I thought the first year was supposed to be the ‘honeymoon’ phase where everything was lovey-dovey. The honeymoon phase ended after the honeymoon!” —Nancy, married two years

“I thought the first year would be no different than living together. NOT TRUE. Marriage is a living institution and you have no idea what to expect until you are in it.” —Rachel, married 12 years

“I expected it to be good and bad because each relationship goes through phases. I honestly didn't expect it to be as rough as it was though the first year. … I was looking for more of a ‘fairy tale’ type first year and that was very unrealistic.” —Monica, married three years

“I thought we would have a lot more fun than we actually did. It was work from the start.” —Hope, married 14 years

“I knew that the first year of marriage would be filled with fun moments and hard adjustments. I was wise enough to know that it would be a time of testing but foolish enough to believe that I could endure it.” —Angela, married 16 years

“I expected my marriage to be very easy. My husband and I dated for five years prior to getting married and lived together most of that time, so I thought being married was going to be a breeze. Whoever said if you live with a person, if you marry them things would be the same…not so.” —Quisa, married 1 year

“I thought we would instantly have this solid partnership/marriage because we communicated very well. We eventually built a solid partnership/marriage, but it took much work and continues to take more work than I ever thought it would.” —Ndidi, married six years

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Changing Your Name? Check Out This Free Site.

Are you taking your husband’s last name? If so, there’s some paperwork that needs to be done to make it official. I know, I know, paperwork sucks, but the folks over at NameThatBride.com are doing their best to make it easy for you. And did I mention it’s free? The site features downloadable forms, checklists, tips to keep it simple and much more.

When I got married I navigated through the process myself. I would’ve loved to have something like this to help me save time and energy that I could’ve focused somewhere else – like on my husband.

If you check the site out and find it helpful please do let me know. I’d love to hear and share your feedback with other new wives.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Interesting Sex Facts or … Fiction

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I could use a little mindless humor. I stumbled across this website of interesting facts and thought that I’d share a few of the sex ones with you.

Sex is biochemically no different from eating large quantities of chocolate. Is that why I get so excited over a good piece of … chocolate?

Males, on average, think about sex every 7 seconds. No, really? I thought it was 5.

Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, August 11, 2008

Don’t Harp on Silly Stuff

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life, when I write about the magic, the mayhem and how to create or avoid them. This morning I’m sharing some advice out of my book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now?, that is guaranteed, gasp! - yes, I said guaranteed - to help you avoid the mayhem if you follow it.

Don’t harp on silly stuff.

Yes it really is that simple. Who cares if the toilet seat is up or down, or if the cap is on the toothpaste? Get a grip, or your own toothpaste, and let the gripe go!

It’s so cliché to even address some of these stereotypical gripes, so I’ll be really brief. Life is too short to give the toilet seat so much of your precious time. Once you get into your marriage, you’ll realize that there are bigger fish to fry, hills to climb, battles to pick (since I’m being cliché, why not go there?), and that it really doesn’t make much difference if he lowers the toilet seat or not. The following is probably the simplest piece of advice that I can give: if you go to use the bathroom and he left the toilet seat up…put it down.

It used to drive me crazy when Husband would come home from work, step out of his pants, and leave them on the floor of our walk-in closet. I just knew it was the end of the free world. I tried to figure out how I was going to tell him to pick his pants up without sounding like a nag. Then I stopped thinking about me, me, me and I put myself in his shoes, or in this case his pants. OK, but seriously, I thought about how he might feel. Maybe it would drive him crazy that he can’t step out of his pants and leave them on the floor. After all, it is his closet, too. His house, too. If he can’t leave his pants on the floor of his closet in his house, where else could he possibly have the freedom to leave them?

After thinking about it like that, his pants on the floor suddenly didn’t seem so serious. Most of the time, I don’t even notice his pants anymore. If I see them on the floor and feel the need, I pick them up and drop them in the hamper. If not, after a day or two – amazingly, he picks them up himself.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Is Erotica Still Taboo?

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex.

Several months ago I wrote this post about women watching porn and the stigma that goes with it. It stemmed from an article that I read in O, The Oprah Magazine. Well, good old Oprah is inspiring me again, this time from her television show, specifically the one she aired on Monday about sex.

Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, August 4, 2008

Don’t Take Your Husband For Granted

You’ve got him now. Your husband, plus a sparkly new ring, his last name and the image of him tearfully pledging his undying love for you on a nicely packaged DVD that you can watch over and over with the simple click of a button. In addition, knowing that you two are bound together for the rest of your lives should be comforting. But don’t cross the line from being comfortable to being complacent.

Just because you signed a marriage license, it doesn’t give you license to take him for granted. When you live together day in and day out, it’s very easy to get used to some of the things your husband may do for you. To expect him to do things and become unappreciative as though he has to do them can be extremely detrimental to your marriage.

There’s no law saying that your husband has to call you if he is going to be home late from work. Should he? Yes, but does he have to? No. Your husband did not vow to put air in your ties when they are low or pledge to be the resident bug killer, but chances are he does these things anyway. They might seem small and easy to overlook, but they are some of the best perks about having a husband and living together.

Next time your husband takes your car and comes back with an oil change, stop and appreciate it. Whatever nice thing your husband may do, acknowledge it by thanking him and recognize how sweet it is.

Remember when you two were dating and he went that extra mile? It gave you that warm and fuzzy feeling when he sent flowers, planned surprise dinners or gave you that special gift. I’m not going to lie; very few husbands keep these things up on a regular basis. Flowers start to come less frequently – on Valentine’s Day, your birthday or if he’s really in the doghouse. Surprises might dwindle, too, and the special gifts… well, those come in different packages. Instead of the Tiffany charm bracelet, you get your computer software updated. Or your car washed and waxed after a rainy day. Or even better, you have a shoulder to cuddle up on after a heart-tugging episode of Law and Order. These may be your warm and fuzzy moments now. Appreciate whatever special little things your husband does to take care of you and know that it’s one of the many ways he may show his love for you.

And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Plastic Surgery in Private Places

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex.

Did you know that you can get plastic surgery done on your vajayjay? Breasts, lips, hips even butts, but I had no idea that upgrades were available for your vagina, too.

I personally am not a big fan of plastic surgery (although I never say never) nor am I advocating for anybody to get some, but I am truly fascinated that there are procedures for your private area and felt the need to share my discovery with you.

Come on over to Wifey’s House to read more…

Monday, July 28, 2008

The Man Rules Part II

Last Monday, I posted Part 1 of The Man Rules… here’s Part II:

The Man Rules­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down. Finally, the guys' side of the story. We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note... these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of them makes you sad or angry, then we meant the other one.

1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both.If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong.We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle, besides we know you will bring it up again later.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear!

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine...really.

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, football, or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; but did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Just Do It! Making More Sex, More Often

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. I finally just did it – read Just Do It, How One Couple Turned off the TV and Turned on Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!) by Douglas Brown.

While younger newlyweds might not be as challenged in this area, there are more and more people getting married at a mature age, and after living together for many years. Thinking that sex is not an issue for newlyweds is not realistic, they can use just as much ammunition in this area as the rest of us – for now or for the future. So, I invite you over to Wifey’s House for a little sex chat. Oh you know you want to… come on by.

Monday, July 21, 2008

The Man Rules Part 1

Husband sent me “The Man Rules” awhile ago and I just have to share. I don’t know where they originated from but they are funny as hell. Some will make you laugh, some might piss you off and some might seem painfully true. The more you learn and take heed to your husband’s own “Man Rules” the more you will avoid mayhem in your marriage.

There are several of them so I’m breaking them up into two parts. Enjoy Part 1:

The Man Rules­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­

At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down. Finally, the guys' side of the story. We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note... these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. See a doctor.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.

To be continued ...

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, July 18, 2008

Irony is a B*tch!

I’m in San Francisco at the BlogHer ’08 conference … and am too tied up to blog. Isn’t that a bitch?

Gone to BlogHer 08

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

A Sex Site Suzy Homemaker Style...

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I stumbled across a great website that I have to share – mypleasure.com.

Have you ever been surfing the net and purposely, or not, ahem, come across a sex site that is too overbearing, crass and offensive? While some people might be drawn to explicit entertainment, there are many interested in sex that don’t want to be bombarded with graphic images, loud music or gidgets and gadgets that we have no idea how to use. If you fall in the first category there’s already plenty on the web to satisfy your needs, but if you like a less intimidating, but not watered-down approach mypleasure.com is the site for you.

“At MyPleasure, we're dedicated to providing the finest adult toy shopping experience possible. We don't use pornographic images or cheap marketing tactics to make money; we try to appeal to a broad, upscale and mainstream audience by offering only the highest-quality products in a clean, comfortable and elegant online shopping environment.”

And they really do. If it wasn’t for a small, unassuming picture of a silver vibrator on the page, you might think you were shopping on Bed, Bath and Beyond or some other home décor retailer. But, what really makes this site great is all of the extras it provides. Everything from sex tips, articles, Q&A’s, games and quizzes, and my favorite, gasp, the education section. They’ve got a sex glossary, a sex toy dictionary and a thorough sex toy guide for those of us who don’t know the difference between slimline vibrators and personal massagers. I mean really, who knew they offer waterproof “vibes?”

While I have yet to buy anything from the site, ahem, I feel a shopping spree coming soon; I did read their shipping and refund policies which made me feel comfortable and confident in their delivery. Even if you’re not interested in purchasing anything, the extras on the site are still worth a look.

So, don’t worry about turning your volume down or an over made up girl and her exposed triple D’s popping up to ask you if you like to have a good time; you can check mypleasure.com out discreetly or… leave it open on your computer for your husband to sneak a peek.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, July 14, 2008

What’s the Best Thing that Happened to You During Your First Year of Marriage?

That’s a question I asked and included in the “Wives’ Words” section of my book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Answers varied from “We became better friends,” to “We got to make love whenever we wanted to and a whole lot,” to “I realized my husband loved me and was trying as hard as I was to learn how to be a good mate.”

There’s no right or wrong answer – as long as you have one. Just like planning your wedding, planning the rest of your life can be stressful and consuming. Your newlywed year is flying by and you don’t want to miss the wonderful “first times” that come with your first year. Do you remember the first time your husband introduced you as his wife? Or, the first time someone called you “Mrs. So & So?” I was in the doctor’s office and didn’t quite realize the “Mrs. Robertson” they were calling was me.

There are many magical moments that happen during your first year of marriage. Make sure to memories of them. So often it’s the drama that stands out in our minds, when it should be those special irreplaceable times.

So, how about you? What’s the best thing that’s happened to you during your first year of marriage? New wives everywhere want to know…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, July 11, 2008

Playing Hooky

Forgive me. I chose to sleep in late, have breakfast overlooking the beach, and then go play tennis with Husband on his 40th birthday instead of waking up and writing a great post. This actually is a great marriage lesson, knowing when to make husband happy and when to put him first!

The family and some of our friends ran off to the beach for the weekend to celebrate my husband’s historic day. I’m off to tickle my toes in the sand and will be back in action on Monday.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

It's All About Location...

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. Last week I put you to work and suggested you clean up your bedroom, boudoir or whatever you decided to call it. This week I’ve got nerve, I’m trying to get you out of it.

When was the last time you had sex outside of your bedroom? Gasp! For those of us with kids that’s a wild and almost non-existent thought. For those of you without kids, hopefully it won’t take you too long to remember.

Come on over to Wifey's House to read more ...

Monday, July 7, 2008

Newlywed Syndrome #5 - Wedding Withdrawal

It’s Marriage Monday at The Newlywed Life, and this week we’re tackling wedding withdrawal, a syndrome that catches most brides by surprise and with their guard – and their dresses – down.

I’m no exception. I didn’t expect to have wedding withdrawal either. I was thrilled that my wedding day seemed flawless. It turned out one hundred times better than I imagined. Then I spent a week relaxing at a luxurious five-star hotel on the beach in Mexico with my new husband rubbing suntan oil all over my bronzed body. Yup, married life was looking and feeling pretty good at that point, until I got home and … wham!... wedding withdrawal came crashing out of nowhere like a big blue tidal wave and wiped out my picture-perfect fantasy.

What is wedding withdrawal? It’s when you miss the excitement, anticipation, craziness and stress of planning your wedding. You’ve lived and breathed your wedding for probably most of your life – or at least the past six months. It’s only natural to miss this. Wedding withdrawal can happen to the compulsive organizer or the carefree planner. Whether you had a five-course meal with 300 guests or an intimate dinner with immediate family and friends, planning your wedding can be as taxing as having a second full-time job.

Your wedding consumes so much of your mind and your time then all of the sudden in one day you’re done. It’s over. Your wedding day has come and gone. No more appointments wit the caterer. No more flowers to choose or pretty silk ribbons to tie around tiny bottles of bubbles. No more fantasizing about what your wedding day will be like, and the hardest part of wedding withdrawal: nothing for you to do.

But, that’s not entirely true, you do have things to do – lots of things to do – it just feels like you don’t. And truthfully, the post-wedding wrap up is not nearly as exciting as planning the wedding. There’s a void that comes after you’ve spent several months of your life living and breathing your wedding. You would think that any sane person would welcome wedding withdrawal and a much-needed break, but no, that would be too easy and not a likely thing for a new bride to do.

OK, so the fact is that most of us go through some sort of wedding planning withdrawal – whether it’s missing the excitement of attending your first bridal expo, or the joy of thumbing through stacks of bridal magazines, or some other aspect of planning the biggest event of your life. And, let’s be honest, many of us miss truly being the center of attention. It’s the one day in your life when everything is all about you! Missing that is normal as long as you keep it in perspective.

Pay attention to your feelings, talk about them with your husband, and then let them go. You have something new and exciting to focus on now – your marriage! Sometimes it’s easy to forget this, but that’s really what the wedding is all about, not the music, nor the flowers, nor the delicious little crab-cake hors d’oeuvres. You are entering a very impressionable time in your marriage – the beginning – and you don’t want to start it off on the wrong foot, especially a selfish one!

And, don’t expect your husband to completely understand what you’re going through. Wedding withdrawal is not a man thing. In fact, he’s probably happy to have the love of his life back, and to lose the chart-seating maniac he just married.

If you’re having trouble letting go, curl up with your husband and relive the day by watching your wedding video. Now is also the perfect time to knock out those “thank you” notes, get your dressed cleaned, and do some paperwork! Besides, handling the after-wedding wrap-up tasks can help ease the pain of the wedding withdrawal blues. They will pass before you know it. Think of it as a transition period to ease you gradually out of your intense and sometimes neurotic planning mode into the exciting and eventful world of marriage.

And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Me and Husband… and Ballerina Barbie?

It’s Hump Day at The Newlywed Life, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I have a chore for you, gasp, but it could lead to some really great sex. Clean your bedroom.

I am not trying to make extra work for you, but if your bedroom looks anything like mine, you really should consider it. There is nothing sexy about rolling over to get your groove on and Ballerina Barbie pliés you in the back. My newlyweds and kid free couples, you’re not off the hook either. How exciting is your laptop, blackberry and stack of paperwork piled ceiling-high on your nightstand; or clothes – clean or dirty – tossed around the room? Your bedroom should be an inviting place for sleep and sex; not a junk, work or playroom for the kids’ toys.

I started reading Just Do It: How One Couple Turned off the TV and Turned on Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!), by Douglas Brown, (yes, a review and challenge will be coming soon), and really took heed when they prepared their room, dubbed “The Love Den,” for their 100 day sexcapade. Call it what you want – The Love Den, Your Boudoir, The Place Where We Have Sex – but just make sure that it’s an environment that welcomes sex. Clear the clutter and replace it with candles, incense or whatever lights your fire – no pun intended. Grandma is the bomb, but do we really need a picture of her watching us while we get our freak on? Instead, replace it with a picture of the two of you; or better yet, your bedroom is the perfect place to keep your favorite wedding picture.

Take the time to create a space that’s sexy and inviting to you and I’m willing to bet you’ll feel more inclined to use it! Happy cleaning…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, June 30, 2008

Marriage Mondays

Matrimony Magic or Matrimony Mayhem? The first year – and those after, too – are often filled with magic or mayhem. Yes, there is Matrimony Mediocrity, too, but it’s normally the magical moments or the mayhem that we tend to remember the most.

So, with that said Mondays will be dedicated to those magical moments (like the first time he introduced you as his wife or the first time you sat in the middle of your new house that you share with your new husband and you thought to yourself gleefully, “I’m married now, isn’t this great?”); or... those not so magical moments (like when you can’t agree peacefully whose favorite couch you’re going to keep or you sat in the middle of your new house that you share with your new husband and you thought to yourself fearfully, “I’m married now, how did I get here?”).

I guarantee you will probably think both of those things several times through out the course of your first year… and beyond. But, not to worry, it doesn’t mean that you’re uncertain, or that you made a mistake. Being nervous about being a new wife is perfectly normally and more common than most new brides care to admit.

Marriage Mondays will highlight some of those ups and downs and offer some do’s and don’ts to help you get through them without having a panic attack. If you have a magical or mayhem moment that you’d like to share, please leave a comment or shoot me an e-mail at questions@askwifey.com.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, June 27, 2008

The Newlywed Life Book List

As an author and an avid reader, it was easy for me to decide to include a reading list on The Newlywed Life. While I haven’t decided if it will be weekly, bi-weekly or monthly, I will regularly recommend books to help you thrive in your first year of marriage and beyond.

Obviously, my book, Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage, is at the top of the list because it’s filled with priceless tips to get you through that newlywed year and beyond; and, ahem, it’s mine. BUT, I promise I won’t overkill you with it.

So, with that said, the second book to add to the list is The Nest Newlywed Handbook, An Owner’s Manual for Modern Married Life, by Carley Roney.





This book, from the creators of The Knot and TheNest.com, is filled with advice, detailed to-dos, checklists, quizzes, and worksheets that are sure to spark conversations, fix problems and get your new life together on track and off to a good start. It speaks to both husbands and wives and is a great resource to read straight through or pick up and refer to certain chapters as needed.

As I urge you to read my book and others, I will constantly remind you while exploring these resources to keep two things in mind – be open to learning something that you didn’t know and be smart enough to ignore something that doesn’t work for you. Your marriage will be better for it! Happy reading …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Got Game?

It’s Hump Day at my other blog, Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex. I started Hump Day to make sure that sex stays on our minds and active in our relationships. I wasn’t sure if I was going to have Hump Day at The Newlywed Life because everyone knows that newlyweds have sex all the time, don’t they? As soon as they leave the reception it’s on and poppin’, right? Wrong. Hopefully, most newlyweds do have a thriving and active sex life, but it’s a myth to think that they are constantly doing it and that their sex life – like everyone else’s – doesn’t need any extra attention, because it does. So with that said, I’m declaring Wednesdays at The Newlywed Life Hump Day, too. Sometimes I will cross post the same thing and sometimes it might be tailored to each blog. Today’s post works across the board…

A few weeks ago I wrote about treating yourself to a Sexy Splurge. I do my best to try and practice what I preach – especially when shopping is involved – so I crashed Jenny over at Daily Dose of Motherhood’s Pure Romance Party and picked up this fun little game.



It’s called I.O.U., The Game of Hidden Pleasures. It comes with 42 hidden pleasure pull-tab cards that you and your lover exchange and then do whatever is revealed on the card. Directions include things like Dinner served naked, Shower for two, Erotic bedtime story and Playful ice-cube fun.

What a fun and simple way to initiate sex. Slip a card to your husband on his way off to work so he can look forward to cashing it in when he gets home; or use it as an I.O.U. when you need to tell him no, but keep him happy and looking forward to the next time.

Games can be a great way to keep the sex sizzling in your relationship. How about you? When’s the last time you bought, played or even made up a game? This week have a little fun with your husband and show him that you’ve got game…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

The Newlywed Nine

No, I’m not talking about months, I’m talking about pounds. Gasp! Do you remember going away to college and hearing about – or gaining – the freshman fifteen? Well, here we go again; new circumstances, new husband, and a whole new set of temptations to put on the pounds.

One of the great things about getting married is security. You’ve got him now and that’s a wonderful and relaxing feeling. But, don’t get too comfortable especially when it comes to the way you look. It may sound sexist but it’s true. Ask any newlywed man what he fears the most about getting married, and I guarantee you that “my wife will let herself go” will be one of his top three answers. Most men fear that we’ll gain weight, lose interest in sex and turn into our mothers – but that’s a whole other post.

I have a very simple solution for this one – don’t let it happen. It’s important that you take care of yourself, first and foremost, for you, and it’s nice that your husband can reap the benefits, too. You can’t be happy in a relationship if you’re not happy with yourself. We feel better, look better, and are happier when we take care of ourselves.

So, once a week I will dedicate a post to knocking out the newlywed nine. As a fitness lover and personal trainer I will share what I know about exercise and eating good to help you stay that hot chick your husband married; or to help you turn into that hot chick you’ve always wanted to be. And… I’d love to hear from you. Make sure to chime in and share your secrets to looking and feeling good, too.

You can start knocking out the newlywed nine by going to your doctor and getting a physical. I know that’s no fun but it’s necessary to find out where you stand health wise. Even you natural born hotties still need to go. You might have a bangin’ body on the outside but you want to make sure that everything on the inside is working well, too. And besides, you always want to get clearance from a doctor before starting any kind of physical activity.

So, here’s to making the newlywed nine... the newlywed none!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Monday, June 23, 2008

The Georgia Bridal Show

I had a fabulous time yesterday at The Georgia Bridal Show. It’s always fun to meet new brides, share in the excitement and to remind them that there actually is life after the wedding.

Thanks to all the wonderful people who stopped by my booth to say hello and purchase a book.



Congratulations to all the new brides and always remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Friday, June 20, 2008

Book Signing...

I will be signing books at The Georgia Bridal Show on Sunday, June 22, from 12-5 p.m. at The Gwinnett Center. If you live in the Atlanta area please do stop by to say hello and get your copy…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Why?

“Why,” somebody asked me, “after nine years of marriage are you still interested in the newlywed year?”

“Because it’s the beginning,” I responded quickly, “it’s important and it’s often overlooked.”

Constantly overshadowed by her big sister, the wedding day, the first year of marriage often receives little preparation or attention until couples are swirling around in the midst of it. Now don’t get me wrong, I love a good wedding and a fabulous party, but it’s the marriage that is most important. The newlywed year starts the foundation of a marriage and that can be scary as *#%@! I wish I had a resource that provided practical advice and reassurance during my newlywed year. At that time there weren’t many options so I took matters into my own hands – literally – and wrote a book about it.

Below is an excerpt from Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage. It’s the intro to the book that shares a little insight about why I wrote it and continue to stay passionate about newlywed life…

Why I Wrote This Book

Help! I’m a newlywed… what do I do now? That’s a thought most new wives have at some time — in the kitchen, or the bedroom, when the in-laws come to visit, or maybe during everyday conversation with your husband. Regardless of where or why you thought it — you did! And if you’re anything like me, you were probably too scared to ask anyone what you should do. That’s exactly why I wrote Help! I’m a Newlywed… What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage.

As a former glowing bride, I found my wedding day to be the happiest, most magical day of my life. I married my best friend, Napoleon, a man I had been involved with for more than five years and was engaged to for one. I was ecstatic that I found the man I wanted to start a family with, to travel around the world with, and to share denture cream with once we’re old and gray. My face beamed brightly all day, and I have very expensive pictures to prove it. I was absolutely certain that I had made the right decision — I love this man madly — so why was I about to go crazy?

I must’ve read every bridal magazine in existence during my engagement. They were very informative about everything leading up to my wedding. The problem was that very little information was available about what to do when I got back from my tropical-paradise honeymoon. Not much for when we walked through the door as husband and wife and had to live with each other — and like it! There was no one saying, “It’s going to be an adjustment,” or “It’s OK not to know what to do now.” All I heard was “You must be so happy” or “You’re so lucky to be married.” Now don’t get me wrong, I was happy, but I was also terrified of my new role in my relationship!

One day, I finally got up the nerve to ask my mother why Napoleon and I were fighting more than usual. And then I asked my aunt why I had to cook dinner every night. And what was I supposed to cook? I even asked my girlfriend how to get my husband to pick up his dirty clothes after he steps out of them each day.

After opening my mouth and screaming, “Help! I’m a newlywed… what do I do now?” I found out that I wasn’t alone. And most important, that I was perfectly normal. I discovered that millions of women and men have millions of questions about being married and that doesn’t mean they don’t love their spouses or don’t like being married. It just means they need help. So here it is… help… to hopefully make things a little easier for you and your new hubby.

Now I must tell you that I am not a doctor, a counselor or a therapist. I have not completed years of scientific research, nor do I plan to bore you, or myself, with any. I’m a wife. Correction, I’m a happy, loving, sometimes frightened, confused and frustrated but willing-to-learn, madly-in-love-with-my-spouse, still-figuring-things-out wife — just like you. I’ve successfully survived the newlywed years — my husband and I are celebrating eight exciting years together — and we continue to work hard to make our marriage work.

Now some of the advice in this book is first-hand, about things that I’ve done and some are things I wish that I did. I’ve drawn from my own ongoing experiences in this exciting world of marriage and I thought it would be helpful to share all of this with you. Plus, I’ve talked to countless brides and wives — newly engaged, freshly married and old-school veterans — and have taken into account their stories, joys and fears. I’ve asked for advice and suggestions from women and men of all ages, and I welcome yours, too.

My goal is to help new wives (and husbands, too) through the kinks of their happy but also scary new unions by offering suggestions for the many challenges and situations that they may face during the beginning of marriage. Hearing that other people were going through some of the same, very real adjustments of marriage that Napoleon and I were going through — no matter how large, small or silly they seemed — left me comforted and more confident in our relationship. I hope it will for you, too.

However, it’s very important for you as a new wife to understand that every individual and couple is different. Some people face different obstacles than others and some handle the same obstacles in different ways. It is crucial to your relationship that you as a couple handle the challenges that you face in your marriage in ways that make you both comfortable and happy.

The Do’s and Don’ts in this book are suggestions that I and many other newlyweds have found to be helpful. Some you may agree with, and some you may not. That’s perfectly OK! Do take this book seriously and take all the advice that suits you, but also take it with a grain of salt and a sense of humor. And, most importantly, don’t take anyone’s advice (even mine) if you are not comfortable with it!

I love my husband, I love being married — and I’d love to keep it that way. In writing this book, I’m not only trying to help you, but to help myself, too. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in your marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out!

Happy Marriage & Best Wishes,
Wifey

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Welcome to The Newlywed Life

Yes, amazingly there is life after you stroll down the aisle and say “I do.” While marriage is fabulous it’s also full of challenges. This blog was created to help new brides and wives navigate through the kinks and changes of the first year of marriage. It’s also a place to chime in… leave comments, share your thoughts, joys and fears, and, oh yes, part of the fun of being a newlywed is showing off those wedding and honeymoon pictures. You can e-mail them to me at info@askwifey.com and I will share them with the world.

Why did I start this blog? It all started nine years ago… blah, blah, blah. OK, short version. I fell in love, got married, and found out that there is a whole lot going on with this marriage thing, especially in the first year. So, I wrote a book about it. Help! I’m a Newlywed … What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage offers new wives straight-forward, practical advice to help them thrive in the first year of marriage and beyond. And, yes, I really did say, “Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now?”

Anyway, I’m sure I will share more about my book and lots of juicy secrets from it as time goes on. For more information or to get your own copy please visit my website, http://www.askwifey.com/. Oh, yes, my website. Every Wednesday I write my "Ask Wifey" column where I answer two questions about marriage and/or motherhood. You can e-mail your questions to questions@askwifey.com. My site also has a resource page, more information about me, and a link to my other blog, Wifey’s House. Please feel free to stop by and visit me there, especially if any new brides would like a glimpse into future married life, guests are always welcome.

Back to why I started this blog. To provide a little help, guidance, or at least let you know that your not alone. Marriage is wonderful, but in the beginning it can also be scary as #@*%! Hopefully The Newlywed Life can do something to make your newlywed life a little easier.

So with that said I decided to start The Newlywed Life right away, without her makeup done. But don’t worry, I’ve contacted the fabulous Trendy Mommy Blog Designs, who gave Wifey’s House her wonderful look, and she is working on a great design for this one, too.

In the meantime, welcome to The Newlywed Life; and always remember, there’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do in marriage, but there is something wrong with not finding out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey